Adoptee Adam and Birth Mother Brenda
Reunited in 2004

"Regret for things done can be tempered by time, it is regret for things not done that is inconsolable".

I have found that this statement is very true in my life. I was 17 years old when my family sat me down and told me I was adopted. I wasn't surprised, but extremely grateful for my family for raising me and loving me in my growing up years. My Mom has always said to me that if I ever wanted to look for my Biological Mother, she would do all she could to help me. Almost 10 years later, I decided one day as I was sitting at my desk in my London based office that I would look on the Internet for the Post Adoption Agency in Canada. To my surprise, the first Registry I contacted was the one I needed to start my journey in the summer of 2003.

In January 2004, my Mom and Dad fell ill and were hospitalized. I rushed over on a next day flight to be with them. I was on compassionate leave for 4 weeks from my job. To my amazement, the Registry called me on my UK cell phone while I was in Vancouver Canada. They informed me that they had been in touch with my Biological Mother (Brenda). It was extraordinary to have all of this unfolding while out in Canada. As they gave me my Mother's telephone number, I was so pleased. As I was about to call her for the first time I gathered my thoughts and decided to call her. Within 30 seconds of me deciding to make the call, my phone rang. As I answered the telephone in my usual manner, I realized that I was speaking with my real Mom. I couldn't believe it! The timing of her call was so unreal!

We spoke for a good 45 minutes or so. At this time it was Tuesday February 10th and having to leave Canada to return to the UK on the 18th, time was certainly short. My Mom asked me if she could meet me before leaving the country.. I was so happy at the suggestion, that I jumped at the chance to meet her! She got a flight into where I was staying. We had our first reunion on Valentine's Day! How perfect is that! Since meeting my Mom, I feel like a part of me that has been missing is finally in place! That big piece of the puzzle is now in place and complete.

If I would have just met my Mom and left it at that, it would definately been amazing but to now know her and have plans to fly out this coming summer to meet the rest of my family is just unreal. Especially knowing that I have a little half brother and sister now! My Mom and myself hit it off big time right from the moment we locked eyes. I just knew that she was my Mom the second I saw her. The funniest thing is we look very alike and are so similar in personality and on our outlook on life as well. I am so grateful to everyone who played a part in our reunion. It has been a dream come true for me and for my Mom also.

I now have a new perspective on life and my priorities have certainly changed since meeting my Mom. I am so excited about getting to know my Family and having this wonderful experience at this time in my life. Any sooner wouldn't have worked. The time of this wonderful event couldn't have been better. It is like a brand new book in my life. This is something that I will cherish for the rest of my life. What a wonderful surprise and exciting time meeting my Mom. Thank you!

Adam
March 24, 2004